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Nov
05

Taming the To-do List

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I went away for a week-long business trip in mid-October and stand here today scratching my head at how I can still behind in work and life!  Typically, business trips don’t wreak quite so much havoc!  Since being back, I haven’t worked out, haven’t made the myriad of appointments I need to, not to mention the other items on the never-ending list.  Hmmm, what’s going on?

I love the popular idea of blocking time for different activities, and keeping that time sacred, but I don’t think it’s realistic for most of us in corporate America.  Do you?  Even for those of us at the highest levels, with an admin standing guard over the calendar, there are still the unexpected meetings, revised deadlines, and new projects popping up every day. 

So today I’ve been shifting my priorities around, and also blocked off a nice chunk of time to focus on the items that never seem to come off the list, even though they must get done.  These are the things that are important, but not urgent.  The things that actually need and deserve more attention, but are only dependant on me.  They are not things that, if not done, would disappoint a manager, spouse, a child, or whoever.  Just me.  So, today is a good day.  I’m regaining control over what I choose to tackle and by doing so, finishing the tasks that have been weighing on the back of my mind.  By clearing that space, I’m feeling happier and more energetic to finish the rest of the list, and just get present to what’s really going on around me.

I know I’m not alone in this situation.  What are your best time management techniques?  How do you manage the never-ending to-do list?

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Oct
11

Digital Camera Fun

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So I’m on this business trip and really do dislike dining alone (note to self: make an effort to be more hospitable when my foreign colleagues come to visit!).  Tonight, I entertained myself by checking out the photos on my digital camera that never, ever, get downloaded.  What a blast.  I laughed outloud throughout the whole dinner, enjoyed my meal, and got back to the hotel quite happy.  What was so funny was the photos my daughter had taken, mostly of her stuffed animals and plastic animal figures all around the house.  I had no idea she had spent so much time with my camera!  The shots were artistically arranged by her 7 yr old hands and oh, so cute!  No one else would have laughed as hard as me, but I really got an unexpected kick out of it.  A great way to feel connected to my loved ones at home instead of moping around and missing them!

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Oct
10

My Singapore “Vacation”

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There is a silver lining to business trips, even those you don’t want to go on – especially for working moms.  Having just arrived in Singapore, I’ve been working on switching my mindset from “I really wish I was home” to “how do I enjoy every moment of this trip”.  Here’s how my “vacation” is going so far:

The flight was very long, but with absolutely no hiccups.  Thank you, Bose headphones and aisle seats!

The hotel is stunning.  My view is spectacular and the service is optimal.  The room service person today saw that I have a cold and came back, completely on her own accord, with a tea service for me.  Now, if I could only figure out how to drink it!  I’ve made a real mess of it, I must admit.  There was loose tea in the tea pot, and another tea pot with hot water, and a strainer do-hickey.  So I put the hot water in the teapot with the loose tea, then tried to pour that mixture through the strainer and into my tea cup.  Apparently, that’s not how it’s done!  Instead, the loose tea blocked up the tea pot’s spout and I got water all over the place. 

Enjoyed a lunch of mushroom soup and a salad full of veggies, did a little yoga (www.exercisetv.tv is a great resource!) and am now I’m off to the Singapore zoo.  Not bad for a first day.  Tomorrow, the meetings begin.

 

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Yesterday I had a chance to tell my 7 yr old the story of Dick and Rick Hoyt, the amazing Father/Son team that has been running Boston Marathon’s, among other races, for years.  It’s a story that has always grabbed my attention and my heart.  What I found, though, is that I got so choked up trying to tell my daughter the story that I couldn’t continue!  Of course, all it went straight over her head and she just wrote it off as “mom being weird”.  She sees this kind of emotion from me whenever a movie, or even a commercial, really hits at the core of what’s important to me.  And believe me, there’s nothing more important to me than my kids.  That’s why I am full of awe and admiration when it comes to the Hoyts.  Would I do the same, if our situations were reversed? I would like to think to so.  I hope so.  But one can never know until faced with the same daunting challenges. 

What about you?   Are there other families, like the Hoyts, who you admire and can share their stories here?  Or, more simply, do you find yourself amazed at how a movie, book, or even sappy commercial can sometimes move you to tears?

 

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Sep
16

Are you up for the 168 hour challenge?

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Check this out.   A new book, blog, and challenge by Laura Vanderkam, the author of 168 hours: You have more time than you think.  I shudder at the thought of taking on another thing to do, like a time log, yet the promised benefit is soooo compelling.  Oh why must we have just 24 hours in a day?!

 

Her latest blog post (below) was particularly powerful for me as I realized last Sunday, as I was feeling a bit run down and asked my husband to take the kids out of the house for awhile, that I simply could not relax.  In order to allow myself to sit on the couch and watch a movie, I had to sit and fold the laundry at the same time.  Otherwise, I felt guilty that my husband was out with the kids and I was just sitting on my rear, not taking advantage of the time.  I knew it was nonsense at the time, and yet, I couldn’t stop.

 

I am very inspired by the idea, below, of scheduling time to sit in a coffee shop.  How I love to do that, yet never do.  Can I actually make that happen?

 

From: http://www.my168hours.com/blog/:

…the reality is that if you want to enjoy hours of indolence as a parent, you’re going to have to understand your schedule very well, and then schedule them in. You are going to have to create space for indolence, because otherwise it will simply get buried under the joys and needs of small children, under the demands and triumphs of making a living, or it will steal away in the arms of (as Keats writes in his poem) “Love, Ambition and that demon Poesy.”

How do you create this space? For me, it’s a two step approach. This week, I’m keeping a log of my time. I find that by understanding exactly how I spend the 168 hours we all have each week, I can start to see where I do have space for daydreaming. And then, I can start to honor this time rather than just checking email, picking up the toy flotsam (loved that phrase from The Happiness Project) that floats through our living areas or reading the Pottery Barn catalog. In The Artist’s Way, Julia Cameron talks of setting artist’s dates, and there’s something to this. I carved out an hour this morning to run outside (which I find relaxing). Some weekday afternoons, I block out an hour to sit in a coffee shop and jot down thoughts. If my husband takes the kids on a Saturday afternoon, I resist the urge to clean the house, and instead work on cleaning out the cobwebs in my head. I don’t think these activities are an unproductive use of my time, because I log my time and I know I’m spending plenty of hours interacting with my kids and working on more concrete projects.

But it is because I know where my time is going that I’m able to have lethargic, joyfully indolent hours. An “Ode to a Time Log” may not sound as enticing as an ode on indolence, but there is great freedom in logging time in our distracted age. Being aware of our time helps to create “evenings steep’d in honied indolence” to quote Keats, and time to lie “cool-bedded in the flowery grass.”

 

What do you think of time log idea?  Are you going to do it?  Do you have TIME to do it? It seems to me that we all better make that time, before we either go crazy, burn out, or get really, really sick.  Your thoughts?

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Jun
22

Mommy Wars = Energy Gone Wrong

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I read an interesting article, and slew of comments today, on workitmom.com (great site, BTW) regarding Dr. Laura’s new book, In Praise of Stay at Home Moms.  At first, I felt all riled up.  Another attack on Working Moms!!  Can’t people leave these wonderful women in peace?!?!?!  Then I viewed the Today Show interview where Dr. Laura talks about the book and read her book excerpt.  Did that change my mind?  No.  But I did start to noticed how tired I felt.  How it was hard to keep my attention from wandering.  That’s when I realized that generating a huge outrage against Dr. Laura does nothing more than sell more copies of her book (and frankly, I’d rather just sell more copies of mine!).  Further, if there was any piece of advice working moms could take away from Dr. Laura’s book – I haven’t read it, so I don’t know – they won’t.  They won’t even buy the book, just like I don’t plan to buy it. 

My biggest rule of thumb is that it’s senseless to talk if no one is listening.  So shhhhh…… let’s just enjoy the silence for a moment, and then go back to our busy days wherever they are – at home or at the office.

Jun
03

Summer by Design

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I got a big wakeup call today when I read Renee Trudeau’s post on creating an intentional summer on her blog, The Journey.  She asks a simple question – what do you want your summer to be like? 

That’s when it hit me.  The summer?  Is it summer already?  Good grief!  I am a business owner, master of my own destiny and manager of my own calendar… right?  So what’s with all these hectic days and crammed schedules?  Do I even have time to figure out what I want?

Luckily, for me, my kids, and my hubby, Renee’s post really hit me.  I CAN decided what I want and create a summer of intent.  I will be working on my list of things I want from this summer – not a to-do list, mind you, but what I want to create – this evening.  It’s going to be filled with SLOW times with my kids, reconnecting with friends, and enjoying this wonderful place where I live.  It will also consciously plan out what I need to do these next couple of months to make the rest of the year truly successful for my book, My Mommy’s on a Business Trip, and it’s soon-to-be-released partner, My Daddy’s on a Business Trip.  What can I do in the next week to kick-start this summer of intention?  I’ll let you know.  What about you?  How are you going to design your summer?

I know it’s been said we’ll all have multiple careers in our lifetimes, but when does touting that fact get to be too much?  I just saw someone on one of my networks list their title as business owner, author, speaker, coach, and … then I got bored and stopped reading.  

If someone is that many things, I start to wonder just what he or she is actually good at.  If I were to look at my life that way, I guess I would also be a business owner, speaker, and author, plus mother, mentor, wife, as well as a marketing and branding expert.  But really, who cares?  I vote for simplicity – choose one title, and make it count.   Maybe you can even make it interesting, like my friend who’s the owner of Paperoot, who I hope will soon change her title from Queen Bee to Paper Junkie – which is what she truly is!  We all wear many hats, but filling up your business card or online profile with them dilutes your impact, your brand.  Right now, my title is Author (of the children’s book, My Mommy’s on a Business Trip), and that suits me just fine. 

Does anyone else feel like this?  If you could call yourself just ONE thing, what would it be?

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May
26

May The Fourth and Rabid Fans

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I heard on NPR today that the second highest search on Google in early May was the date, May 4th.  Why?  Because of Star Wars fans, of course!  Don’t get it?  Neither did I, until they explained it.  Then, my marketer’s heart started to pound with excitement!

We all know the phrase, “May the Force be with you”.  Star Wars fans, the RABID FANS – you know, the ones who attend conferences, know every story line, and perhaps have a costume or two around the house, celebrate May the 4th as an unofficial Star Wars holiday.  Why?  So they can say, “May the Fourth be with you.”  Is that fantastic or what?!  Imagine a group of people identifying with your brand/product so powerfully.  It’s stunning.  It’s what so many companies strive for, yet most fail miserably.  There are very few brands that have reach that kind of stature and we should recognized for them this supreme achievement.  I can only hope my own book, My Mommy’s on a Business Trip, gets that kind of following among working moms one day!  Conventions, online groups, meet up groups, etc. – all celebrating the struggles and triumphs of the working mom.  Hmmm… stay tuned… we certainly are a force, aren’t we? 

If you had to pick a brand you absolutely love, what would it be?  Why is it one of your favorites?  I’d have to say that mine is Costco.  My experience there is always consistent, I’m never disappointed with the products, and if I end up there at the right time, I always leave with my belly full!

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May
22

Help your man stay out of the doghouse

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When I came across this “in the doghouse” video from JC Penny on Mary Dean’s great blog I laughed my head off (Mary is the CEO of KickSkirt, an agency that helps companies market to women – the right way).  As marketer, I was also duly impressed my how well it was produced an the creative concept.  Wives and girlfriends everywhere are going to love this one!  Hats off to JC Penny for having a management team with minds open enough to give this a try.

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