Archive for June, 2009
I read an interesting article, and slew of comments today, on workitmom.com (great site, BTW) regarding Dr. Laura’s new book, In Praise of Stay at Home Moms. At first, I felt all riled up. Another attack on Working Moms!! Can’t people leave these wonderful women in peace?!?!?! Then I viewed the Today Show interview where Dr. Laura talks about the book and read her book excerpt. Did that change my mind? No. But I did start to noticed how tired I felt. How it was hard to keep my attention from wandering. That’s when I realized that generating a huge outrage against Dr. Laura does nothing more than sell more copies of her book (and frankly, I’d rather just sell more copies of mine!). Further, if there was any piece of advice working moms could take away from Dr. Laura’s book – I haven’t read it, so I don’t know – they won’t. They won’t even buy the book, just like I don’t plan to buy it.
My biggest rule of thumb is that it’s senseless to talk if no one is listening. So shhhhh…… let’s just enjoy the silence for a moment, and then go back to our busy days wherever they are – at home or at the office.
I want to make sure all my readers are aware of an excellent site for women travelers, www.smartwomentravelers.com. As a result of my children’s book, My Mommy’s on a Business Trip, I often speak to women about the hidden silver linings of business travel, like a good night’s sleep, time for self, time to catch up with old friends, reading a book, etc. Instead of sitting around the hotel worried about what’s going on at home or at the office, I strongly recommend everyone take this time and make it really work for YOU. You’ll come back more rejuevenated and refreshed vs. even more stressed and tired than when you left! On the site is a great article on how to give yourself a facial with simple items you’ll find in the hotel – what a great idea!
Some of you may have read by now the article on the Motherhood Penalty on Business Week’s working parent’s blog. The article is about a research study that found working mothers were 100% less likely to get a job interview than women who did not present themselves as mothers on a resume. While the statistic is quite shocking, what’s really interesting are the sentiments expressed in the comments following the article.
Really, are the mommy wars still going strong? I am now in an enviroment full of momprenuers, so I rarely run across the non-mom these days. However, my life at a Fortune 50 company is not that far behind me, and I must admit, I never felt the mommy wars there, either. So the venom, and defensiveness, of some of the post really surprised me.
I found that once I was a parent, managing an employee became a piece of cake. Convincing a toddler to eat veggies or go to bed is just as challenging as motivating an employee or managing a crisis at work, and the two worlds – work and home – end up supporting each other very well. I also know that the year I had my first child was the year I received my highest performance rating at work and I continued to receive high ratings and big bonuses from then on – more than when I wasn’t a mom.
I also know that EVERYONE at my old company was working online after 9:00 PM, kiddos or not. There just wasn’t time for backstabbing and gossiping or the overall waste of energy that it takes to complain about a co-working leaving to take care of a sick kid. I attribute this to my former manager who created a very supportive culture. Frankly, one would look like a real jerk if he or she started griping about someone not pulling their weight. If you have a problem with someone in your office: First, look at yourself in the mirror – what bothers you about someone else is something that bothers you about yourself. Second – talk to them directly about it instead of feeding the rumor mill.
It’s that easy! I left my last employer to write a series of children’s books dedicated to explaining the world of work to kids (www.mommytrip.com). The intent is to help not only children understand what mom and dad do every day and why they can’t always be around, but also help the parents really ROCK their lives. If mom and dad can build a rich life at home and at the office, then our children are raised in happy homes and the world becomes a better place for everyone. It’s that simple.
I would love to hear if you think the mommy wars are alive and well in your world or not, and if they are, what are you doing to put a stop to them?
I got a big wakeup call today when I read Renee Trudeau’s post on creating an intentional summer on her blog, The Journey. She asks a simple question – what do you want your summer to be like?
That’s when it hit me. The summer? Is it summer already? Good grief! I am a business owner, master of my own destiny and manager of my own calendar… right? So what’s with all these hectic days and crammed schedules? Do I even have time to figure out what I want?
Luckily, for me, my kids, and my hubby, Renee’s post really hit me. I CAN decided what I want and create a summer of intent. I will be working on my list of things I want from this summer – not a to-do list, mind you, but what I want to create – this evening. It’s going to be filled with SLOW times with my kids, reconnecting with friends, and enjoying this wonderful place where I live. It will also consciously plan out what I need to do these next couple of months to make the rest of the year truly successful for my book, My Mommy’s on a Business Trip, and it’s soon-to-be-released partner, My Daddy’s on a Business Trip. What can I do in the next week to kick-start this summer of intention? I’ll let you know. What about you? How are you going to design your summer?
I know it’s been said we’ll all have multiple careers in our lifetimes, but when does touting that fact get to be too much? I just saw someone on one of my networks list their title as business owner, author, speaker, coach, and … then I got bored and stopped reading.
If someone is that many things, I start to wonder just what he or she is actually good at. If I were to look at my life that way, I guess I would also be a business owner, speaker, and author, plus mother, mentor, wife, as well as a marketing and branding expert. But really, who cares? I vote for simplicity – choose one title, and make it count. Maybe you can even make it interesting, like my friend who’s the owner of Paperoot, who I hope will soon change her title from Queen Bee to Paper Junkie – which is what she truly is! We all wear many hats, but filling up your business card or online profile with them dilutes your impact, your brand. Right now, my title is Author (of the children’s book, My Mommy’s on a Business Trip), and that suits me just fine.
Does anyone else feel like this? If you could call yourself just ONE thing, what would it be?